Last week we got an email from our adoption agency in Minnesota telling us that ICAB (the Philippines government officials) were COMING for a visit on October 17th…yes, TODAY.
To be completely honest with you, I was so excited because we have been waiting for them to visit our agency for months. They were supposed to come in August, but it got postponed. After I thought about it for about 2 seconds…my excitement turned to panic.
Because here’s the thing… We live in Illinois. And Minnesota and Illinois are not close together. Last week when she told me they would be in Minnesota on October 17th? It was less than 8 days away.
If you’ve never checked flight prices for a flight you need in 8 days, let me just tell you, you might feel like you need to sell your living room furniture to make it happen. It’s not cheap. $600/person not cheap.
Did I mention we have 5 people in our family? I literally spent two whole days in tears.
It’s been one of those questions that I get asked over and over again.
“What do your kids think about you adopting a baby?”
Most of the time I respond with the usual answer, “Our 7 year old is old enough to understand and be excited, but the 4 and 3 year old are too little to know what it means.”
But what I started to realize is that I never tried to explain it to them on a toddler level. Not because I didn’t want to, but because I really didn’t know how to.
When your kids ask you, “Why are we adopting a baby?” or “Why doesn’t that baby have a mommy and daddy?”…it’s easy to just blow off the question and say “You are too little to understand right now…”.
But the truth is, I should have been attempting to help them makes sense of what adoption really means. Especially since it’s going to be such a huge part of our family history.
From the moment I jump out of bed I immediately start processing all of the things that I have to get done for the day. It’s like my brain is a human list of to-do tasks. Most of which I’d rather stab myself in the eye than complete.
Any moment that it isn’t sleeping…it is thinking.
Do y’all have a brain like that? One that is impossible to shut down?! I blame my dad for this DNA gene. He will wake up in the middle of the night and start writing things down that need to get done that he was thinking about in his sleep.
I’m so excited to announce that our Happy Mommy Shop is OPEN!! Yes, like RIGHT NOW y’all.
Ok, friends…it’s going on 2 years now since I really went all out on a birthday party for my kids. Mainly because when you have three boys…that equals three parties every year that all have to be some sort of boy theme. And you know what?
I got burnt out. Quick.
I think the last party I threw with effort? Was the Blue Ombre Birthday Party for Parker which ended in him telling me his favorite color was actually red. #awesome
I used to love decorating for parties and really getting into a theme…but along came child #3, also known as “the crazy one”, and my whole life changed. Suddenly my desire to throw parties vanished and what little energy I had left after taming the wild one was spent RESTING. Ha! (more…)