When you hear the word “abuse” within a marriage you almost immediately think of physical abuse. Emotional abuse is another concern especially when it has to do with money. A recent comment in our Marriage More Community Free Facebook Group led to this discussion in sharing how Jeff and Mandy had similar struggles with who made the more money and the sense of entitlement that came along with it.
First things first, today’s episode is coming straight from our newest Facebook Community and if you’re not part, we want you to join in! Since we launched the new Facebook Group it’s been incredible to see so many people care about their marriage, ask tough questions and just be honest about where they are at with all things marriage.
So whether you’ve been married 5 minutes or 50 years, it’s a safe place for so many of us to come together and encourage one another and see that we’re all in this together. Marriage is hard. We hope and pray that this group can be a place where marriages can heal.
Money… it’s not an easy topic to bring up with anyone, let alone your spouse. Each of us have grown up and see marriage and money differently and then all of the sudden you’re married and have to figure out what you and your spouse do with the finances.
Is one spouse is the breadwinner and you feel guilty not brining any income to the family?
Does your spouse have debt up to their eyeballs?
Is your spouse refusing to have join bank accounts?
Maybe one of these statements is your story… You’re not alone. Its’ natural to have friction between your spouse and sorting through how to pay down the debt, save, spend and so on…
If you’re curious how the Rose’s get down with their money… it’s pretty simple.
- There’s no separate bank accounts, its’ all joint accounts and each of us have full access to those accounts.
- If you are the primary income provider of your home, that does not give you an out for helping raise the kids, take out the trash, etc.
- There’s no mine and yours… no matter who makes what amount of money, it’s all the same.
- Bottom line: Budgeting together is different than assuming a dictatorship role and dishing out an allowance each week to your spouse.
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