If you read my twitter or facebook update and felt uninformed…here’s an explanation:
Before you get excited, let me just say that this story doesn’t have a happy ending.
I have to go ahead and fess up that something major happened in my life that I didn’t share with you all. I had recently found out some really exciting news…..
J and I had recently decided that it was time for P to be a big brother and low and behold…a month later I had a positive pregnancy test. WOW! J has some super sperm, right? I know, I didn’t blog it (can you believe it?), but I was wanting to wait until I knew everything was okay. Most of you probably don’t know this, but I had a miscarriage before I got preggers with P….so I know that things can happen.
Unfortunately, this time wasn’t meant to be either. After a full night in the ER, being told I was not pregnant based on my urine test (even though I took 3 positive tests at home), then being told they think they switched my lab results with another girl in the ER who thought she was pregnant, then being told my blood test was definitely positive, two trips to the OB yesterday, having my blood taken twice, a vaginal exam, and a shot in the rear….the news that rocked my world last Thursday suddenly sank my ship today. I have now experienced my second miscarriage.
I am what they call Rh negative (blood) and J is Rh positive, which means if the baby is Rh positive the pregnancy can be at risk because your body looks at the baby as foreign blood. Now, according to my doc, there are no official studies that show the rh factor can cause early miscarriages (there are studies to show it can cause later miscarriages). So she doesn’t think it may have been caused by the rh factor (although I am fullly convinced it had something to do with both of my miscarriages). There is a shot they can give you to protect you against it, which I had after my first miscarriage. Then when I got pregnant with P….all was good! As soon as I found out I was pg this time I asked if I needed the shot right away and was told not until 28 weeks. So…I didn’t have it this time and miscarried. However, I got the shot yesterday so hopefully that means that my next pregnancy is going to go smoothly! If it does, I will be more fully convinced the my body needs that shot in order to protect the baby.
Of course we are disappointed and upset, but we are trying to stay positive and remember that God is in control. I am thankful to know that I have no problem getting pregnant quickly (as we have witnessed this time and the past 2 times). It is clearly evident that I am capable of having a perfect sweet little baby like P, so I am trying to remember that every rhyme has a reason and this one is no different. Even though I was already envisioning this…
God knows what is right and it won’t be long before I witness this sweet moment once again.
When I feel like being upset, I try to just remind myself of he millions of women out there who CAN’T get pregnant and who have to go through infertility treatment. I think about how disappointed they are time and time again when they have negative results.
Our plan is to just try again and hope for a better outcome next time! Your prayers are appreciated!