If you read my twitter or facebook update and felt uninformed…here’s an explanation:
Before you get excited, let me just say that this story doesn’t have a happy ending.
I have to go ahead and fess up that something major happened in my life that I didn’t share with you all. I had recently found out some really exciting news…..
J and I had recently decided that it was time for P to be a big brother and low and behold…a month later I had a positive pregnancy test. WOW! J has some super sperm, right? I know, I didn’t blog it (can you believe it?), but I was wanting to wait until I knew everything was okay. Most of you probably don’t know this, but I had a miscarriage before I got preggers with P….so I know that things can happen.
Unfortunately, this time wasn’t meant to be either. After a full night in the ER, being told I was not pregnant based on my urine test (even though I took 3 positive tests at home), then being told they think they switched my lab results with another girl in the ER who thought she was pregnant, then being told my blood test was definitely positive, two trips to the OB yesterday, having my blood taken twice, a vaginal exam, and a shot in the rear….the news that rocked my world last Thursday suddenly sank my ship today. I have now experienced my second miscarriage.
I am what they call Rh negative (blood) and J is Rh positive, which means if the baby is Rh positive the pregnancy can be at risk because your body looks at the baby as foreign blood. Now, according to my doc, there are no official studies that show the rh factor can cause early miscarriages (there are studies to show it can cause later miscarriages). So she doesn’t think it may have been caused by the rh factor (although I am fullly convinced it had something to do with both of my miscarriages). There is a shot they can give you to protect you against it, which I had after my first miscarriage. Then when I got pregnant with P….all was good! As soon as I found out I was pg this time I asked if I needed the shot right away and was told not until 28 weeks. So…I didn’t have it this time and miscarried. However, I got the shot yesterday so hopefully that means that my next pregnancy is going to go smoothly! If it does, I will be more fully convinced the my body needs that shot in order to protect the baby.
Of course we are disappointed and upset, but we are trying to stay positive and remember that God is in control. I am thankful to know that I have no problem getting pregnant quickly (as we have witnessed this time and the past 2 times). It is clearly evident that I am capable of having a perfect sweet little baby like P, so I am trying to remember that every rhyme has a reason and this one is no different. Even though I was already envisioning this…
God knows what is right and it won’t be long before I witness this sweet moment once again.
When I feel like being upset, I try to just remind myself of he millions of women out there who CAN’T get pregnant and who have to go through infertility treatment. I think about how disappointed they are time and time again when they have negative results.
Our plan is to just try again and hope for a better outcome next time! Your prayers are appreciated!
I am so, so sorry. I know there are no words that can make this better for you right now, but it sounds like you are as upbeat as you can be. Thinking of you!
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I am so sorry. My prayers are with your family right now. I just had one as well a month ago and it is such a hard thing.
Mandy my thoughts & prayers are with you & Jeff! Please know I’m here…
aw…..mandy i’m sooooo sorry!!! that took a lot of courage to say…..thank you for sharing with us….now we can pray for you and you family! God does have a plan, he has a plan for your perfect little angel and things will work out in his timing! i’m sooooo sorry you’ve had to go threw this twice! my thoughts and prayers are with you! just remember he does have a plan for you and you little angel!
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I know it is a is a difficult subject for you about now, but your post shows your positive attitude and faith. I am so proud of your positive approach. All will be good! The P-man will be a big brother when the time is right. Mom and I can wait as long as it takes. I am sure you and Jeff will have fun trying again. If you need a night alone, just let us know. We love you, Jeff, and Parker. Dad.
I know this is not easy for you. Keep you head up darling and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Like I said on twitter, I’m here if you need me!!
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Praying for you both. So sorry you had to go through this though.
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Your positive attitude is amazing and just shows what kind of person you are!! I’m so sorry to hear the news, like you said God knows what is right!
I’m praying for you all and send hugs and happy wishes!!!
xoxoxo
Sarah
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I haven’t stopped thinking about you once sweetie. I know this has been so difficult, but like everyone said, your positive attitude and faith will get you through this. My brother and his wife have been trying to get pregnant for almost 3 years. They have been through IVF a few times with unsuccessful results. I just keep praying every night that God will bless them with a healthy baby. You are right…it is SO great that you can great pregnant and carry such a perfect little man. I think that is one of the biggest challenges. And knowing that you got your shot and are ready to go this time should put you at ease. You know your body better than anyone sweetie. Hang in there and call me whenever you want 🙂 You are in my prayers. Eric and Addie and I send our love. Hugs & Kisses!!
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Hi Guys,
So sorry this happened to you. I understand. I had a miscarriage at the end of my first trimester after Emilie. Of course I was sad, but was really suprised how it affected me. I know you guys are hurting.
I am like you and do believe that the RH factor Does have something to do with the events… I am no Dr., but have taken care of many girls in the ER that have had the same experience that you have. Thank God that you are healthy and will be able to have another wonderful blessing, I am sure – soon. Take care and give P man a hug for us… he is growing up so quick. Em and I were just talking about his yesterday, loved the big man hair cut~ Amy
I am so sorry that you are having to go through this but I am definitely praying for you & J and that P will get to be a big brother soon. XOXO
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Just wanted to say your Daddy’s comment was too cute 🙂
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Oh Mandy I am so sorry. You know we had a miscarriage before this pregnancy and just had to keep leaning on the fact that God has a plan 🙂 I will definitely be praying for you guys and that the next pregnancy is soo healthy and great for you!
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Hey girl!
I am sorry to hear about what happened but I must say that I’m inspired by your attitude and the positive aura you set forth in this post. Hang in there and have a great weekend!
Julie
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I’m so sorry to hear about this. Stay positive and don’t get discouraged one bit. Sending prayers your way….
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my heart goes out to you. when the time is right everything will work out perfectly.
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Thank you for sharing this story. What a positive outlook you have! And you are right, God has a plan and you just have to have faith that he knows that he is doing. Good luck!
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So sorry sweetie…..you’ll be in my prayers. I def know what it’s like Jerimy and I expierenced the same thing before we had Braxton – I was devistated…but it’s all about God’s timing. It will all work out!
I’m so sorry to hear this! But you are right- God is in control and he will give you your second little one at just the right time!
so sorry to hear this – but you are exactly right………….God has reasons that we know not of. keep your head up and hug on your little man. you guys seem to be awesome parents and will be blessed with a new gift in perfect timing.
keeping you in my prayers!
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I’m really sorry to hear of your loss. You are right in tht you are blessed to have a child and the ability to conceive, but a loss is a loss and you have the right to grieve, too. I wish you peace with this and brighter days ahead.
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