The task of taking three boys to the doctor’s office all at one time should be defined as “art”.
It ain’t easy yo’.
Take one? No problem.
Take two? Do-able.
Take three? I outta just schedule myself a therapy appointment while we are there.
What is it about grouping three boys together that makes them act as if they were never taught how to behave in public? I feel like this is true not just for doctor’s visits, but anywhere we go with all three. Together.
I feel like I’m constantly saying, “I swear, I teach them manners.”
But y’all, little boys forget all about those manners the second we are unleashed at the pediatrician’s office.
Take the hand sanitizer for example, or “hanitizer” as my little guy calls it.
Instead of using the hand sanitizer like normal little boys, they want to make it rain hanitizer.
Then they want to take a bath in it because… “Mooooooom, we are durty. We need keen.”
Not to mention, everything is funny. Like e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g.
Especially the pee-pee check. And the piggy check.
Even the heart rate check is funny when your brothers are there.
Sometimes raising boys is like raising wild tigers. Especially when it comes to unpredictability.
One second they are telling secrets and loving on each other.
The next second? Someone is hauling off and punching someone.
I’m pretty sure girls don’t just haul off and throw punches, am I wrong girl-moms?
I do want to say that I think that when you have one VERY spirited child in the mix… it changes the entire dynamic of the group.
And our little SJ is quite the spirited boy. To say the least.
What I have learned about going places with all three boys is that I will absolutely never judge you as a mom. Never.
If I see you in public and your kid is getting naked in the grocery store, screaming in a restaurant or getting his tantrum on in the physician’s waiting room… let’s be friends.
Because one thing is certain, I feel yo’ pain.
Maybe your children are very cooperative and you have no clue what I speak of when I say “getting naked in the frozen food aisle”. If so, be thankful.
Temperament is not something you can change in a child. When they are strong-willed and defiant by DNA, you will have a harder time parenting them.
I do agree that sometimes a child’s behavior is because of a parenting fail. And don’t get me wrong, I don’t think I’m a parenting superstar. I definitely have my faults. But I do know that my older two boys are “compliant” as I like to call it. The youngest one? Not so much.
I’ve done nothing different. In fact, I’ve tried all different kinds of teaching when it comes to him. Nothing seems to change the fact that he is non-compliant by nature.
What we can do, as moms and as women, is build each other up. Support each other instead of judge.
You might read something I post and think, “Geez, my kid would NEVER be caught dead doing something so dumb.”
Or how about this response, “I’d lock my kid in his room and never let him out if he did something like that.”
I hear these things from people all of the time. People who think they are helping me by telling me they’d never let their kid so something mine just did. That is not help.
That is judgement.
You are essentially saying that what my kid did or did not do was a reflection of my ability to be a good mom. And that is a lie.
Sometimes that statement might not be a lie. There are bad moms in this world.
But I know that I refuse to feed into the lies that his temperament is because of something I did wrong.
I want you to know that if you have a spirited child. A strong-willed child. A defiant child. You are not alone.
And most importantly, it’s not your fault.
The best thing you can do is learn and research how to handle spirited children. They don’t always respond to the cookie cutter parenting techniques.
If you want a great resource, I have absolutely LOVED diving into this book: Raising Your Spirited Child.
The first chapter had me going, “Oh my gosh, this is so my child.” And every chapter after I keep repeating that same thing.
We got this mamas… New grey hairs and all!