…saying “no” to things that fulfill my time.
We just recently got back from San Diego where my husband and I spoke about work-life balance at the Digital Co-Lab conference. While I was preparing the speech I couldn’t help but think that I wasn’t qualified to be an expert at work-life balance.
In fact, balancing work and life was something I failed at over and over and over again. Working too much. Living too little.
And my hubby was even worse. He used to be so consumed with working that, sometimes, we didn’t see him or have is undivided attention for days at a time.
There has been so much that we have changed over the last 2 years that has truly helped us gain control over our lives that it was fun to write it all down and share it with a group of women who I knew it could benefit.
Unfortunately, one really big part of making time for family is that it means you can’t do everything. Dang it.
I know.
I really like to think I can do it all.
Heck, as a woman, I feel like I should be able to do it all. But I’ve realized that in order to have sanity and to enjoy my children and my husband…I have to learn that little word I hate so much… “no”.
After contemplating for over a year, and being told my MULTIPLE successful entrepreneurs, Jeff and I have decided that we are going to be working together MORE which means we have to say no to some things that we are currently doing.
Don’t worry, this is not a House of Rose is over announcement. Ha! I will probably never stop writing here. It’s my outlet.
And I love Happy Mommy Box and it’s mission so I will never say no to that.
But, Jeff and I really want to share our lives and experiences in a way that may help others. Currently, our Dollars and Roses blog has been themed around “How to Make Money Blogging”, but honestly, neither one of us was ever really passionate about writing about making money.
We loved the site because it was something we were doing together, but the topic was wrong. So we are currently rebranding it and we hope to make a big announcement about it soon.
The whole reason I am even writing this is to tell you that the Inspire Me Please Link Party I was hosting is something I had to give up.
But, Liz, Tonya and Jennifer will still be hosting so please…continue to link up your wonderful projects by visiting one of their blogs each Thursday night at 9:00 PM CST.
I can’t wait to share with you more about what Jeff and I are working on!
So true isn’t it, finding the right balance is a never ending battle. Good job saying no to a few things. I always find that once I do say no I fell like a load has been lifted off my chest.
This is a bittersweet post Mandy! I’m sad to see that you won’t be hosting Inspire Me Please but I’m so happy you’re choosing to spend your time with your family. Hosting a weekly link party really does take a lot of time so I totally understand! Excited to see what’s next for you and Jeff!
Saying “no” is such a hard thing for me to do, but it is so important in order to make time for family and the things that I want to do. Good luck on your new venture too, can’t wait to see what it is!
Thank you!!
Thank you for sharing, it is nice to know that even a big time blogger like you has to say no to keep family in priority. If listening to you & Jeff together in your pod-casts is any indication of how you two are together I am sure you will do amazing things working together. Can’t wait to see how Dollar’s & Roses changes & grows!
Awww, thank you Tamara! We are really excited about what we are gonna be doing together in the near future! Can’t wait to share!
The way I see it, when you do less it allows you to do those things better. You can be the best at a few things (being a momma, being a wife, House of Rose, and happymommybox) instead of wearing all the many hats of possible projects. I’m not even a momma and I am struggling with trying to divide myself between my career, my husband, my dogs, taking care of my house, wanting to read a book, wanting to write (like really do some personal writing not for my blog), trying to blog, etc. finally I started letting my blog go. I am still writing there when I have time but I’m not making it a burden anymore. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one that struggling with a case of doing-to-much-all-the-time.